The silver linings of introversion


Since I can remember I have experienced a great sense of joy when reflecting deeply, philosophizing and daydreaming – basically to “have my head in the clouds” I guess.
In this potentially wonderful haven, where nobody can make demands on you and with absolutely no pressure or limits; you are the sole King/Queen of your world!
In the beginning or at certain times it may not always be a haven though; at worst more like the opposite. But perhaps the fact that you as an introvert are inclined to and even need to turn inward often, means that if what’s inside(thoughts and feelings) is unhealthy or negative – You will naturally need to explore and eventually heal this inner realm, to make it a pleasant place to reside.
For a long time I was mostly ashamed of this tendency; like I was the only one in the whole world who preferred to be “lost” in reflections on the inside while being quiet on the outside. Perhaps I was just a silly and naïve dreamer escaping from “the real world” and its challenges and demands? Why couldn’t I just take an interest in normal, practical and down to earth matters, like most people seemed to prefer and enjoy? Instead of these intangible realms of depth, where I liked to linger. And to be so self-absorbed most of the time – that’s pretty egotistical isn’t it?
As I have matured and gained more awareness and self-acceptance, I now see things in a different light:
This preference can lead to some big gift for us to bring to the table – there are several silver linings: creative ideas, artistic expressions, musings and insights regarding the state of both the inner and outer world. As well as the ability and willingness to dig deep into our souls in search of underlying causes for any current personal problem – To really get to the core/heart of the matter; which is also where any lasting solution/answer is found. 

Our personal stories and problems + the specific solutions and personal healing we’ve made along the way, are of course very subjective; but the insights gained and the means we used to get to there, is not. More like universal applicable, I think.
So definitely; YES – we should stop being ashamed of this natural inward turning, and begin to share whatever “gold” we have extracted on our journey through life – no doubt about it! When we’ve processed the issues thoroughly and are ready to share it, of course. And very important too:
There is absolutely no reason to continually share your hard-earned wisdom with those unable to use it or recognize its value: To use a lot of time and energy, endlessly trying to help someone (by shedding some light on their problems, since you see through to the underlying cause), without it ever really having any effect, but causing you to feel increasingly drained – This is just such a waste..
Instead, find the right outlet and recipients; people of a similar disposition who appreciate and see the value in your approach. Somewhere, where your golden “harvest” of insights will be received in the spirit, it was offered – this is where it is truly going to be helpful!



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